Once married and divorced, we reach a stage in our lives where we begin to ponder long-term living together. So much of our logic resides in our heads, making it difficult for us to make the decision to live together, when the decision is usually one we can make in the here and now.
As in many things in life, there are lots of reasons we should or could live together; some reasons we can’t. For example, you may have been raised to live together, but for some it’s years since you’ve lived with an adult and that means you’re either way at sea or simply not ready.
We will also discuss some common reasons that can make or break living together whether you have been married for 50 years and are both 65.
1. Long-Term Living together is just like marriage, except that there are no major courtesies to peruse
Should you live together before you get married, there is a little extra onus on you from the wedding on wards, although this is not a hard and fast rule.
2. If you both have serious criminal histories or one of you has a record fornication or vice
It’s not recommended at this stage. It would be safer to wait until you’ve been married for a year and have another serious break up to decide whether you should live together.
3. Living together may not be the best idea for a couple who doesn’t exactly get along
It may well be possible to address issues regarding communication and your mutual understanding. But, you will have to address issues concerning jealousy and insecurity, moving in together without talking about issues at home. There is the possibility that they may form an attachment based on infatuation, and when the infatuation part wears off, the relationship could well break apart. Consider these possible scenarios before you decide to live together.
4. Do you share similar social values?
Have you noticed that you and your partner disagree on several social issues, or do you think that the other person has a different set of values? For example, do you both favor large families for your own self-giene and socialization, or do you prefer to live small and get out and experience new people in general. Although you may think that it’s acceptable for someone with a different set of values to live with you, it may not be so acceptable when it gets out that they didn’t share similar values with you in the first place.
5. Are you similar in your beliefs?
If you worship the same god, what is the exact belief that you share? It’s important to be able to agree on religious matters if you are going to live together for an extended period of time. Of course, you need to find out beforehand how the other person’s beliefs differ from yours, and this will need discussing at length. Otherwise, it may be difficult to reconcile your beliefs in things that involve daily activities, such as lying to each other, practicing religion, or other practices.
Practiveness is one of the main positives when people think about living together, but residence at someone’s home is usually not a requirement for those who do not want to. So, if you’re really compatible with this person and you feel like it’s now or never, then you may need to consider a move to his or her place.
Ask yourself whether you’re willing to deal with the possible repercussions of living with a non-Stop Love Offender. This is especially true if you have children together. You will need to discuss all of your role and plans moving forward with the non-stop love partner.
Living together is an exciting time, as you’re free to enter into new relationships and make more of a social life. Some may think about making it a long-term commitment, but it may not necessary be the first indication that you have. Keep your ears open for common interests and goals to share, such as languages, hobbies, sports, movies, music and other activities.